Clare Alden MacIntyre-Ross
February 5, 1943 ~ March 9, 2016
Clare Alden MacIntyre-Ross of Falls Church, VA, and formerly of New York City and Scarsdale, NY, died peacefully at age 73 under palliative care at the Inova Fairfax Hospital on March 9, 2016 as a result of complications from a stroke. She had battled numerous ailments for many years, especially those from rheumatoid arthritis.
Clare was born in Washington, DC to the late Mr. and Mrs. Malcolm A. MacIntyre of McLean, VA. She graduated from The Mount Vernon Seminary in Washington, DC, The Masters School in Dobbs Ferry, NY and Bennett College in Millbrook, NY. She also graduated in 1966 from the University of the Pacific in Stockton, CA with a Bachelor of Music Degree and a Musical Therapist Certificate.
From the early 1970's to the mid-1980s, she worked on Wall Street, initially at Drexel Burnham Lambert, an investment banking firm, as its first female institutional salesman, and then at Citibank as a senior account officer in the International Services Division for Latin America where she helped establish off-shore accounts and financial instruments for clients; she had acquired fluent Spanish language skills during a prior residence in Argentina. Friendships from there have also endured to this day.
Previously, she was involved in the musical and song-writing career of the late Harry Chapin and is considered to be the inspiration for his 1972 song "Taxi."
Clare is survived by David A. Ross, her husband of 26 years, who is a Washington lawyer and retired lieutenant colonel in the Army Reserves. She is also survived by her sister Pamela MacIntyre and her husband Robert Sawrey of Charlottesville, VA; her nephews Duncan MacIntyre and Gordon MacIntyre and his wife Yancina Burbano of Tucson, AZ, Duncan and Gordon are the sons of her late brother, Bruce MacIntyre and his late wife, Joy; her cousins Alison Withey of Newberg, OR and Sheila Withey of Cool Creek, AZ, the daughters of the late LeaAnne Becker of Iola, KS, the daughter of Janet Bishop Farr, her late aunt and mother's sister; her brother-in-law John Michael Ross of Alexandria, VA; and her god-daughter, Claire Donohue of Germantown, NY, the daughter of the late Barbara and Jim Donohue of Bronxville, NY.
In lieu of flowers, consider donations in Clare's memory to the Arthritis Foundation, 1355 Peachtree St NE, 6th Floor, Atlanta, GA 30309 | 404.872.7100 http://www.arthritis.org A private burial will be held at a later date in Woodlawn Cemetery in the Bronx, NY.
Funeral Home:
Money & King Funeral Home
171 W. Maple Ave.
Vienna, VA
US 22180
Clare was born in Washington, DC to the late Mr. and Mrs. Malcolm A. MacIntyre of McLean, VA. She graduated from The Mount Vernon Seminary in Washington, DC, The Masters School in Dobbs Ferry, NY and Bennett College in Millbrook, NY. She also graduated in 1966 from the University of the Pacific in Stockton, CA with a Bachelor of Music Degree and a Musical Therapist Certificate.
From the early 1970's to the mid-1980s, she worked on Wall Street, initially at Drexel Burnham Lambert, an investment banking firm, as its first female institutional salesman, and then at Citibank as a senior account officer in the International Services Division for Latin America where she helped establish off-shore accounts and financial instruments for clients; she had acquired fluent Spanish language skills during a prior residence in Argentina. Friendships from there have also endured to this day.
Previously, she was involved in the musical and song-writing career of the late Harry Chapin and is considered to be the inspiration for his 1972 song "Taxi."
Clare is survived by David A. Ross, her husband of 26 years, who is a Washington lawyer and retired lieutenant colonel in the Army Reserves. She is also survived by her sister Pamela MacIntyre and her husband Robert Sawrey of Charlottesville, VA; her nephews Duncan MacIntyre and Gordon MacIntyre and his wife Yancina Burbano of Tucson, AZ, Duncan and Gordon are the sons of her late brother, Bruce MacIntyre and his late wife, Joy; her cousins Alison Withey of Newberg, OR and Sheila Withey of Cool Creek, AZ, the daughters of the late LeaAnne Becker of Iola, KS, the daughter of Janet Bishop Farr, her late aunt and mother's sister; her brother-in-law John Michael Ross of Alexandria, VA; and her god-daughter, Claire Donohue of Germantown, NY, the daughter of the late Barbara and Jim Donohue of Bronxville, NY.
In lieu of flowers, consider donations in Clare's memory to the Arthritis Foundation, 1355 Peachtree St NE, 6th Floor, Atlanta, GA 30309 | 404.872.7100 http://www.arthritis.org A private burial will be held at a later date in Woodlawn Cemetery in the Bronx, NY.
Funeral Home:
Money & King Funeral Home
171 W. Maple Ave.
Vienna, VA
US 22180
View current weather.
Memories Timeline
Guestbook
Sign the Guestbook, Light a Candle
dearest clare, you will always be my very special friend. i will love and remember you and pray that you are now at peace.
Wewill always remember the wonderful moments we spent with you and they will notbe forgotten with the passage of time..rest is peace Love Carole and Ted
Dearest Clare– Courageous, colorful, fun, clever, and beautiful. My heart went out to you as I watched you battle health issues with so much dignity and humor. I will miss you. I wish you peace and eternal love.
Dave, Our deepest regrets and will be praying for her and you. I will let my team know and expect them to pledge too. Dave I am away down at the Granges for the next 7 days but will return and call you ASAP. All the best Your friends at Pegasus Info Group. Jim Gregory, Dale Doxtater and Gen Dave Grange, and the Greeley Family. Jay R Greeley President of Pegasus Info Group Leesburg. VA 20176
David, I am sorry for your loss and even though Clare may be at peace and without pain, it is still difficult for those left behind. You will be in my thoughts and prayers.
David, Clare was a vibrant, beautiful person who I will always have fond memories of from childhood through adulthood. She suffered so much, but always with a fighting spirit. Through it all, you held her hand, guided her, supported her and loved her with all your heart. Our thoughts and prayers are with you. Bruce
Clare was a wonderful person with global interests and international perspectives. She and I became friends in Argentina. I enjoyed her sense of humor and her wise insights on the human condition. I feel fortunate to have been her friend.
David – I’m so sorry to learn of Clare’s death. I hadn’t seen her in years but I know she struggled with health issues. I’m glad she was in good care at the end. Our fathers were such close friends, and I was very fond of “Uncle Mac”. Please know that my thoughts and prayers are with you and Pam. Best, Sharon
We will remember Clare as a creative person with strong views, who made us always feel welcome when we visited her and her husband David. We remember many nice trips to great restaurants and lots of animated talks about all kinds of subjects. May she rest peacefully. Amen.
David – For many cihildhood years, Clare and I were”best friends” and went back and forthe between weekends in Scarsdale and NYC. We loved to sing together and enjoyed many good times. We saw each other in NYC until we moved to Paris in the mid-1970s, after which we lost touch, and I am sorry. She was a gutsy woman overcoming many physical and emotional issues. I am so happy that she had a long happy marriage with you after such a hard time in the 1060s and early 1970s. I felt very close to then entire MacIntyre family, particularly Uncle Mac and Clare, but also Bruce, as an older brother I never had. Please tell Pamela and others how much I grieve for them and you, but I am glad that Clare is at peace. Best, Gilda Wray
David: I am very sorry to hear that Clare had died. We never met although I knew of Clare and Pamela. My father, Charles, was Clare’s father, Malcolm’s first cousin. The “boys” spent their summers in New Brunswick, I believe on the family farm. My daughter, Nicola, corresponded with Clare by e-mail. It was a treat to read some of Clare’s e-mails to Nicola and to find out more about her side of the family of which we knew little. Please accept our sincere condolences. Duncan and Susan
Dear David, Indeed, I am sorry to hear of your wife’s death. Yes I am sure she is resting in peace. She did feel pain often and badly but yes she did conquer it with her humor. To refresh your memory, I am an old friend of hers from our Mount Vernon Seminary days.I was a bridesmaid in one of her weddings along with Donna Quinn Robbins. I met you at your home one halloween event. My condolences. Warm regard, Courtney Hagner
Clare has been in and out of my life since I was 16. When my mother was ill she gave me very sound advice. I have always looked to her for counsel. Recently we lost touch, but I shall always remember our “chats”. David, my deepest sympathy to you and the entire family. R.I.P. Clarita as you are now free from suffering. You are loved and missed.
Clare and I were friends for about fifty years! First in Stockton, then Boston, and New York. I too was a bridesmaid in the first wedding, and was honored to officiate at the happy event of her wedding to David. She was a brilliant spirited woman with a great sense of humor, originality, and courage. I see her now dancing and laughing and free. My love and sympathy to you, David. She is free from pain, but we miss her.
Clare, You were such a dear friend to me. I love how you took me under your wings while I lived in Virginia. You always took such good care of me and my kids. I remember Cami always calling you Clara, and how much she loved your cats. One year you gave her a stuffed animal cat of her own which she loved. I loved talking to you about your amazing life while driving to the commissary, Your life was full of adventures and obstacles. You were like family to us. I cherish all of the memories and times we had together. The picture of you coming and visiting me after I had jane rings in my memory, and how much you loved me and my kids. You loved starbucks coffee, we often had a joke that I ate as much chocolate as you drank coffee. You also loved to shop. I am so grateful that you were a part of my life, I will never forget you, and all of the wonderful memories I have with you. You have made me a better person. Love you.
The staff at Fairfield Crossing Apartments would like to send Mr. David Ross and the entire family our deepest condolences. Clare Alden MacIntyre-Ross was an amazing lady with unbelievable strength. It was evident that although while in pain, she had the ability to make us laugh. She would come into the leasing office with her two venti starbucks cups, one filled with water and the other with iced coffee. Our memories of her would live on and on. We feel blessed to have known a woman full of strength and character. She had such amazing life experiences. She will surely be missed by us all. Thinking of her entire family during this difficult time. –Staff at Fairfield Crossing Apartments Leasing Office
The staff at Fairfield Crossing Apartments would like to send Mr. David Ross and the entire family our deepest condolences. Clare Alden MacIntyre-Ross was an amazing lady with unbelievable strength. It was evident that although while in pain, she had the ability to make us laugh. She would come into the leasing office with her two venti starbucks cups, one filled with water and the other with iced coffee. Our memories of her would live on and on. We feel blessed to have known a woman full of strength and character. She had such amazing life experiences. She will surely be missed by us all. Thinking of her entire family during this difficult time. –Staff at Fairfield Crossing Apartments Leasing Office
Was only informed today of Clare’s passing. She and I attended Bennett College together, then friends in San Francisco during her Stockton days, then roommates in NYC for several years in late 70s. She helped me with my “clown” career and was so kind to me. Hysterically funny, intelligent, stunningly beautiful, and off the wall…who was the clown? Have been wanting to get in touch for years and never did-saddened by that. Freedom for her at last dear Clare. Pam-am sending you love. I hope you see this-. Did not meet you David, but condolences to you! Love, Sara Fargo-Santa Barbara, CA
I appear to have survived a huge crush on Clare in high school, where I would occasionally walk her home, a few hours that were likely the high point in my school dating career; for Clare, in retrospect, it was more likely a solution to the practical matter of getting a heavy load of books home in the presence of a porter quite willing to please. While I was in no condition to appraise the situation objectively, she was genuinely nice, willing to talk with a nerd even at the risk of being seen by her peers, and she contributed substantially to my developing a sense of interpersonal adequacy, if not brilliance. Im very grateful for the brief times we shared and wish her family and husband David the very best.
I appear to have survived a huge crush on Clare in high school, where I would occasionally walk her home, a few hours that were likely the high point in my school dating career; for Clare, in retrospect, it was more likely a solution to the practical matter of getting a heavy load of books home in the presence of a porter quite willing to please. While I was in no condition to appraise the situation objectively, she was genuinely nice, willing to talk with a nerd even at the risk of being seen by her peers, and she contributed substantially to my developing a sense of interpersonal adequacy, if not brilliance. Im very grateful for the brief times we shared and wish her family and husband David the very best.
David and Pamela, I have been so sad to hear about wonderful Clarita. Clare and I met at Mount Vernon Seminary. She developed ulcers then and I used to take her home work home to her every day. That is how I discovered her very amusing sense of humor, her great loyalty, her courage and bravery. When I think of Clarita I hear her laughter. She never complained. She later moved to New York and I would visit her at New York Hospital. She, even there, would greet me with laughter. We would wonder what would happen to her next. I loved that she was totally outspoken, direct, with the biggest heart in the world. She was so observant and totally brilliant. Wise, kind, generous and sensitive Clare enriched all our lives, especially mine. Through all her adversity I heard her contagious laugh. She taught me how to live life to the fullest, be brave, have fun,love life and all your friends and make the world a better place. Ann Martin Calder