Melissa B. Tompkins

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Melissa B. Tompkins, age 44, of McLean, Virginia died on November 1, 2008. Beloved wife of Ben Tompkins; loving mother of Schuyler and Ben, Jr. Tompkins; devoted daughter of Sidney and Pamela Brown and sister of Sidney Brown, Lindora (Tom) Moran and Boyd (Ann)Brown. In lieu of flowers, the family suggest that memorial contributions be made to the University of Virginia Fund, P.O. Box 400314, Charlottesville, VA 22904 or SPCA of Northern Virginia. P. O. Box 100220, Arlington, Virginia 22210-3220.

Funeral Home:

Money & King Funeral Home

171 W. Maple Ave.

Vienna, VA

US 22180

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  1. Dearest Ben, Schuyler and Ben, With my whole heart, I am so glad I knew your Mom! With my whole heart, I wish you peace and comfort. Michela

  2. Dear Ben and Family, We are deeply saddened by Melissa’s passing and our hearts go out to you in your grief. You are in our thoughts and prayers.

  3. Ben, How sadden Ryan and I were to hear of your loss of Melissa. Our prayers are with you and your family…..BK

  4. Ben, I am so saddened by your family’s loss. I am Melissa’s friend from the Regency and UVA. I know she will be missed. My thoughts are with your family.

  5. Dearest Ben and Family, Melissa was a very special star-bright, beautiful, and loving. She was so very proud of your guys and loved you very, very much. She tried so, so hard. My heart goes out to you. Dorothy

  6. I am in shock to hear of Melissa’s passing. She came to my spinning classes for many years! I will greatly miss her! My thoughts and prayers are with her family! Tracey Yensen

  7. Ben: I am very sorry to learn about the passing of your lovely wife Melissa. My prayers are with you and your family. Mark

  8. Dear Schuyler and family, I am so sorry for your loss. I don’t really know what to say only that your mom was an incredible woman. I remember her coming to our Lightning games and being so encouraging and supportive. She was a beautiful person and I know I will always remember her. Your family will be in my prayers. Love, Dorothy

  9. Ben, I am so sorry to hear of the passing of your beatiful wife. My thoughts and prayers and deepest sympathy to you and the children. Lori

  10. I don’t know if I’ve seen Melissa since our daughters (Maggie & Schuyler) were classmates at Montessori School of McLean, but her impression was a lasting one. A very happy, lovely, energetic part of our community has passed away. It’s just very sad. My heart goes out to your family. – Mike

  11. Dear Ben,Schulyer and Ben, I am so shocked by the loss of Melissa. We met at the Regency gym when I first moved to Mclean and our children were around 2 years old(Schulyer and Teddy) and 6 months(Ben and Abby). Melissa was my idol!!!! The way she would run on that treadmill!! We lost touch when I left the gym and reconnected when Schulyer and Teddy became friends at Langley (they forgot that they grew up together at the Regency nursery- but Melissa and I didn’t! We laughed about that several times). She still had that spectacular smile and that soft spoken voice. I wish I had spent more time with her. The beautiful family that she leaves—Ben, Schulyer and Ben-is a testament to her goodness. I will keep you in my prayers. Michele Petersen

  12. Ben, Please accept my deepest condolences for your loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. Jeff

  13. Dear Ben, Schulyer, and Ben ~ I am so very sorry for your loss. Melissa brought energy and passion to this world like only few can. As a student in my spinning classes, her amazing attitude and unwavering dedication and strong spirit helped transform an ordinary hour into an unforgettable experience. She is safely in God’s hands and will be smiling through you forever. We will keep you in our thoughts and prayers through this very difficult time. Love and Peace to you, Kristin Parker

  14. Dearest Ben, Schulyer and Ben, We met you when you first moved into the neighborhood which seems like yesterday. We were so sorry to hear about Melissa. Know that our thoughts and prayers are with you now and always. Anne, Steve, Kara and Brad Himelfarb

  15. Dearest Ben, Schuyler, and Ben, We are deeply saddened by Melissa’s untimely death. We will remember her as a bright, energetic and beautiful woman. We have such fond memories of her coaching Phoebe and Schuyler on the soccer field, cheering the girls on during their summer swim meets, and just hanging out with them on your backyard trampoline. We hope all your wonderful memories will comfort you in the days ahead. Our thoughts and prayers are with your family. Doug, Audrey, Phoebe and Scott

  16. Ben, I know it is hard to lose a family member and I am very sorry for your loss. I learned from church that you lost your mother and I can only imagine how hard that must be on you and your family. If I can hlep you at all please let me know. Please tell your family that I am sorry for them as well and I will keep you all in my thoughts and prayers during this very sad time. With my condolences, Jack Sullivan

  17. Dear Ben, Schuyler and Ben, I knew Melissa only slightly, many years ago, but she left an indelible impression on me. She seemed to be a loving, energetic, wonderful person. My thoughts and prayers are with you all as you cope with this terrible loss. Laura Zoll

  18. Dear Ben, Schuyler and Ben, We were deeply saddened to hear about Melissa’s passing. We feel very grateful to have known her and your family. We’ll hold close the memories we have of spending time with your family at the beach and being the recipients of Melissa’s generous and kind attention. She was a wonderful person who has left behind a wonderful family. Our thoughts and prayers are with you all. Sincerely, Chris, Kim, Carson Simkins and family

  19. To Ben, Schuyler, Ben Jr and extended family: Our thoughts and prayers are with you as you adjust to the loss of Melissa. We will always remember her as the bright energetic girl we knew when we were all starting our families years ago! With love, your cousins Kathy, Scott, Wil, Tom and Jon Hamilton.

  20. Ben, I am so sorry for you and your family’s loss. I know that my colleagues in Fairfax County have you in their thoughts.

  21. We send you and your family our deepest sympathy. We are your neighbors on Snowpine Way. My daughter used to see Melissa outside with your children and said once “I want to be just like her when I grow up… beautiful, athletic, with a wonderful family.” She was a hero to even those that didn’t know her well.

  22. Dear Ben Although I am now on the other side of the globe, Melissa has been in my heart and mind since the indelible first impression she made over 20 years ago… and will she remain there forever. I am so fortunate to have been able to see you both sporadically through the years and catch glimpses of your family growing up; I wish I could have been closer in the last few years. My prayers go out to you and Schuyler and Ben. All my love Anne

  23. Ben: All of us who know your bright and warm personality wish you strength and blessings with our deepest condolences at your loss.

  24. Dear Ben, Schuyler and Ben, I have known Melissa for many years at the Regency. She was always so dear and what a beautiful smile! We always shared stories of our children- she was so very proud of you both! I am so sad for all of you. She was an incredible woman and a proud Mom. My heart goes out to you.

  25. Ben, I was very saddened to hear about the passing of your wife Melissa. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.

  26. Mr. & Mrs. Brown, We were shocked and saddened to hear about Melissa’s passing. Our thoughts and prayers are with you and your family at this most difficult time. Rozena & James Osterbind

  27. I am so sorry to hear about the passing of your daughter. May God bless you in this time of loss. My thoughta and prayers are with you.

  28. Dear Family, We learned of Melissa passing on the Eve of Thanksgiving. Efrem shared with us such sad news. I recalled how she shouted out Ben’s name as he swam across a lap during a swim meet. Her beauty stood out at the Hamlet pool as she basked in the sun while her children played nearby. She would help her daughter do her homeworking in one of the Scouts’ meeting. I would see her walk the dogs when I drove by.She certainly made a pleasant impression for all to remember her. We are so sorry for her loss. It is beyond us to understand how this could happen to a young pretty Mom and a loving Wife. May she rest in peace. Sincerely, Gary&Cynthia Efrem Nathan

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